Teen Suicide: Learning to Recognize the Warning Signs
Many teen suicides can be prevented if warning signs are detected and appropriate intervention is conducted.
No two teenagers are alike, but there are some common reasons they consider suicide.
Many teens who attempt suicide do so during an acute crisis in reaction to some conflict with peers or parents.
Such conflicts are common among teens, but those who attempt suicide are particularly reactive to them because they:
Have a long-standing history of problems at home or school
Suffer from low self-esteem
Believe no one cares
Abuse alcohol or drugs
Have experienced other acutely stressful events, such as an unwanted pregnancy, trouble with the law or not meeting high parental expectations
Signs of trouble
Research shows that nine out of 10 individuals who attempt suicide have a history of mental illness or substance abuse, making these extremely important risk factors.
The warning signs include:
Noticeable changes in eating or sleeping habits
Unexplained or unusually severe, violent, or rebellious behavior
Withdrawal from family or friends
Sexual promiscuity, truancy, and vandalism
Drastic personality change
Agitation, restlessness, distress, or panicky behavior
Talking or writing about committing suicide, even jokingly
Giving away prized possessions
Doing worse in school
How to help
If you notice any of these warning signs in your child, you should take these steps:
Offer help and listen. Don't ignore the problem. What you've noticed may be the teen's way of crying out for help. Offer support, understanding and compassion. Talk about feelings and the behaviors you have seen that cause you to feel concerned. You don't need to solve the problem or give advice. Sometimes just caring and listening, and being nonjudgmental, gives all the understanding necessary.
Take talk of suicide seriously, use the word “suicide.” Talking about suicide doesn't cause suicide—but avoiding what's on the teen's mind may make that teen feel truly alone and uncared for. Tell the youngster that together you can develop a strategy to make things better. Ask if your child has a plan for suicide. If he or she does, then seek professional help immediately.
Remove lethal weapons from your home including guns, pills, kitchen utensils, and ropes.
Get professional help. A teen at risk of suicide needs professional help. Even when the immediate crisis passes, the risk of suicidal behavior remains high until new ways of dealing and coping with problems are learned.
Don’t be afraid to take your child to a hospital emergency room if it is clear that he or she is planning suicide. You may not be able to handle the situation on your own. You may also contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifelife at 1-800-273-TALK.